(By the B2B)
We're all about marriage prep, so when someone suggests a book or lecture or something of that sort, we try to give it a shot. A dvd lecture series (which shall remain nameless) was recommended to us and we attempted to watch it today. We lasted almost 5 minutes. Here's why:
The speaker began with some jokes that weren't funny, and talked about women and men communicating in different ways. The part that finally killed us was when he suggested that men see the world through blue sunglasses and women see the world through pink sunglasses. He used the same logic for pink and blue hearing aids. In other words, b/c women are soooo female they can't see or hear in any other way, and the same for men. I wish I was making this up. It got worse, but I'll spare you.
Unfortunately, we've come across this line of thinking really often. Operating on really basic assumptions does two things... One, it makes you feel like there's something wrong with you if you don't fall into that stereotypical category. And two, it blocks you from engaging on any sort of deep level, b/c you're caught up in the essential notions are gender that are really just a construct any way. Of course there are differences between men and women. Some of those differences are biologically determined and some are not. But reducing gender to pink and blue is really hurtful.
In our opinion, we are all created in the image of God and we are more the same than we are different. We should appreciate one another in the fullness of our humanity and our gender, not begin with a "gender straight jacket" (as my FH would say). I give God more credit than men are from mars, women are from venus, or men are waffles and women are spaghetti, or whatever.
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